Hello, my name is Gayil. Let us talk about sacrifices and love.

I am a believer and as a believer I follow the ways of Yahuah and Yahushua. We are told in scripture that His ways are higher than our ways. What does sacrifice mean when we follow His ways?

Sacrifice is doing something, or giving something up which says ouch. I feel that. But sacrifice without love means nothing at all. We are told in scripture obedience is better than sacrifice. We are also told that if we say we love Yahushua but do not obey the Father’s commands than we are a liar and the truth is not in us.

It all goes hand and hand you can not have true sacrifice without obedience which equals love.

Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. 24 And they that are Messiah's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.  25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.

In scripture who is called to sacrifice the man or the women? Ouch, does that hurt. Who is called to sacrifice? Tell me does it hurt

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Messiah is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Messiah, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Messiah also loved the assembly, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Messiah also loved the assembly, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious assembly, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Master the assembly: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Messiah and the assembly. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.         

. But the word head does not mean authority like in English but it means life giver. See this URL for the verses concerning head. http://www.cbeinternational.org/new/free_articles/male_headship.shtml  

If one finds a virtuous woman shouldn’t the man sacrifice to be with her? The woman’s needs are to be met by the husband. But all I here from guys is what is important to them. The only requirement for marriage was not to be unequally yoked. It is the character of the woman that is important not where she lives not if she likes the things you do, not if she is good in bed, etc, etc.

I get told why you don’t move here, it is your fault why we are not together. If a man as children underage not an adult then I agree they should not move. But if all it that is keeping them from being with the one whom they love is a job, the climate, their friends, parents, political party, or any other reason then they do not know what sacrificial love is. It is the man’s responsibility not the woman’s to make the sacrifice.

Yes if one is betrothed they are husband and wife but they are not to commit sexual sins. They still have to wait until they come together and consummate the marriage before the marriage bed is undefiled.

Prov 12:4  A virtuous woman [is] a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed [is] as rottenness in his bones. 

Prov 31:10  Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price [is] far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Prov 31:28  Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband [also], and he praiseth her.

 So here I am everything a man would want but I have as of yet been able to find a man who knows how to love and give himself up for a wife sacrificially. A precious wife I will be. A wife who does not need to be asked about what sex positions if I give oral what I will do for them. A lot of men who call themselves born again are not going to like this. But the truth is if they do not sacrifice for the one they say they love then they do not love the one they say they love. As a man do you know how to sacrifice with love?