But the key is this: in order to access this gift of Godly strength we must “Submit ourselves first to God” and be "walking in" and "filled with" (controlled by) the Holy Spirit which lives within us (Gal 5:16,26; Eph. 5:18-21). Which brings me to the question driving this study: So, what happens when a woman who is to be submitted finds herself married to a man who does not know God or understands the Kingdom? Should she demand that he get saved? Should she fast and pray in her locked bedroom until he repents? Maybe she should refuse to serve him until he agrees to go to church or nag him until he turns from his wicked ways.

This, I will say, "NO", all of these things have been tried and they all have FAILED. God has a better idea, he spoke through Peter to give women a prophetic tip and a great deal of hope. The Apostle Peter provided the answer and revealed an amazing gift God gave to women. "Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives." 1 Peter 3:1-2 (NIV)

If you will receive it, he was saying: "Listen daughter, you don't have to beat the man with your Bible. You don't have to yell at him, fuss at him, beg him, or deprive him of your Love either. Use the weapons I gave you at your new birth, Show him your inner power and an inner beauty. If you are willing to tap into who you really are in Me, if you will dare to tap into your divine femininity, you can save your husband's soul with out so much as quoting a Scripture. I have given you the power to become a “Walking Epistle Of Love.”

Wow! Who would ever believe someone could save a man without quoting a Scripture? It is time for us to believe God's Word. He said they may be won "without a word." Believe His promise. If a woman does what it takes to walk in her true calling, she will become a walking epistle. Listen to what God is saying: "Spend time finding out who you are." Make God your first focus, your first love in life. Find your fulfillment in Him, not in other people, in activities, or in things. Too many women and men enter marriage hoping to be happy and trying to be fulfilled in the flesh when God never intended for marriage to function that way. God is saying: “I am the only one who can make you happy, I am the only one who can fulfill you.” Why? God expects each and every one of us to come home every day and linger in His presence.

Can I be real with you? Ladies, if your "inside woman" is messed up or missing in action, then that outside wrapper won't attract much worth keeping. Your pretty wrapper might attract a shopper or a random sampler or two for a while, but sooner or later it will be discovered that there isn't anything in the box! There is nothing finer than a woman who knows who she is. There are too many women who don't know who or how to define who they are other than by how they dress. Their identities are locked into their outward appearances. This is why we are admonished in 1 Peter 3:3 “Do not let your adornment be merely outward, arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel;” What did Peter mean when he said adornment? Is it taboo for women to wear make-up (etc) No! Peter used the Greek word, “kosmeo”, which means: to put in proper order, to decorate, to garnish, or trim. In other words, he was saying: “Listen, baby, don't put all of your focus on your make-up or the way you arrange your “stuff” and place things on your body.” Why did I bring this up? God gave Eve and every woman after her such power and beauty in their natural state that when they get with men, things just start to happen.........If you could ask Adam, he would say: “Now Eve hadn't been to the hair shop, and she hadn't even had her nails done, she hadn't had a pedicure since creation, she hadn't been to the local YMCA, and to come to think of it, she hadn't made a single trip to the Mall. She didn't need a wardrobe because Eve was just “FINE” in her “Eveness”.

What do we see in Eve that is missing from many women today? Is God telling us that women and many men are spending more time pampering, prancing, and masquerading to fix the “outside wrapper” when the real worth and value is on the inside. 1 Pet 3:4 tells us: “Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.” Peter said the secret to a woman's power is a gentle and quiet spirit. It is the tool God gave to women to help them build up men in his kingdom through quietness. God wants a woman who understands quietness because a smart woman without wisdom doesn't understand or care that she possesses so much artillery in her spirit. The power of a woman is not in her volume, knowledge, outward appearance, or power of argumentation. A woman possesses the power to bring godly conviction to a man without saying anything. Her power is in the preciousness of God; she has a quiet beauty; You can house the Holy Spirit like nobody else that can calm the wildest beast in a man, and when you walk into people's lives clothed in a submissive spirit before God, people will just have to respect you. All she has to be is the woman God called her to be.

Many women are studying to be smart, not wise. I'm not saying women should bypass an education or work only inside the home. I'm stating what the Bible says: “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” Proverbs 4:7 Knowledge is good until it comes into conflict with godly wisdom. Most women become unwise when they acquire knowledge for the sole purpose of competing with men. Many women are encouraged by the world to argue, nag, and battle against men for supremacy in every area in life. Yet, we wonder why men are turned off or driven away by women without wisdom. Too many women are fighting a flesh war, when God is telling them not to do that.