Archive for October, 2007

Men Are From Mars and Women Are from Venus

Wednesday, October 3rd, 2007

Relationships help in connecting and reaching to our friends and dear ones in this world. This article focuses on the differences between men and women–men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. In a marriage, it is very important for couples to understand this fact. So, if you want a relationship to succeed, couples must acknowledge and accept these differences before they can develop happier relationships.

If you manage to get into a relationship with a right person, you are one of those lucky persons in this world. How many times this has happened with you that, you met a handsome person who was very friendly with you and had lent his helping hand to you. You thought that he is the “Mr. Right” for me. In your mind, you could sense what a great guy he was, and that, somewhere deep inside; you both shared this strong “chemistry”. But for some reasons he didn’t want to hook up with you. After interacting with him, you decide that this is not the one you are looking for.

If I ask you to identify top three qualities of your “Mr. Right” and you quickly pick up three qualities. This does not mean that what you think you want in a man is what you really want in a man. I strongly believe that what most women think they want in a man is sometimes incompatible with what they really want. All these are because of the combination of thoughts, behaviors, emotions, qualities, and an action regarding your relationships with men is playing in your mind. All these factors are collectively called as ineffective patterns. Once you identify your ineffective patterns and replace them with effective patterns, there is a high chance that you get involved in a successful relationship.

Now, Let us discuss some of the reasons why Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. The thinking of a Martian and a Venusian is different in some cases.
As quoted by John Gray in his book titled “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships”, Venusians and the Martians moved to Earth after having enjoyed wonderful and fulfilling relationships with one another for many years. However, as soon as they arrived on this planet, amnesia sets in! They can no longer remember that they are from different planets and all sorts of communication and emotional problems set in.

Men are different from women. One cannot deny this fact, and you have to accept it. When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status, and character that will help her in identifying many things about him. Lots of women don’t even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them. But does the same apply for men? As you probably already know, men are generally more visual. As a result, they often don’t understand non-verbal communication as well as women. If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful attraction to you that you feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know.

As a woman you should not pretend to be someone else for a man. You should be your own as a person. You should not pretend to be someone else or you should not try to copy someone else. In this process you might lose your own dignity and things might worsen. In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man’s attention or try to be in love with them.

You should believe in your own natural ability to judge a man’s personality and his character. People aren’t easy to figure out. From what I’ve seen, both men and women have their own hush-hush ways of saying things. But you can only see these communications if you know what to look for. Women communicate with hints, body language, and flirting when they’re first getting to know a man. They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they’re open to something more serious.

Men are different. Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, and other ways of communication. Very rarely you will find a man honestly communicating to a woman whether or not he’s ready of developing a meaningful relationship. If you don’t know how to read the signals men send, then you’ll get the wrong message. Getting the wrong messages from men might cause women more pain than any other issue around. You can avoid this pain if you quickly learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.

Sometimes there might be some situations when a man can be attracted by two women, and he’s in a place where he’s emotionally not committed to either of the women. You should learn to understand and identify emotionally unavailable men. A good man who is the right person and wants to be with you will find his own way to his “Emotional Freedom”. Since men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, they both have a different understanding of love. That’s why it’s critical that women learn to understand those signals that a man sends.

You first leave a space that he’ll not recognize and not understand. This will first make him think about you and then he will wonder why you aren’t acting the way you used to. Men love “new” things and curiosities. In addition, you’ll also be able to give him the space he’s desperately looking for. The more you can distance yourself from your husband, who’s dating another woman, the happier you’ll be. Relationships will improve by 100% with some simple application. You have to be more practical in handling situations. You should “Use Your Head and Follow Your Heart”. Try them… they work.