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I’ve never seen you looking so lovely as you did tonight
I’ve never seen you shine so bright
I’ve never seen so many men ask you if you wanted to dance

Cris De Burgh told us of the magical effect of the Red Dress in his song “My Lady In Red” years ago, and for the skeptics (if there were any), now even science has given its nod.

A group of researchers at the University of Rochester recently did a series of studies to show that men rated women in red clothing or accesories to be more attractive to men than in any other color. In fact, the study even concludes that men are willing to spend more on a date with a woman dressed in red.

Now that last part is actually useful information..

Every woman worth her fashion mag already knows that a wearing little bit of red, whether in lingerie, lipstick or accessories; can act as an instant mood lifter on even the bluest of days. The color just exudes power and sensuality. In my opinion, the researchers might have better spent their time and money on figuring out why Red has this effect, though how even that would have been useful to anyone is not something I can guess.

However, I couldn’t help but wonder why Red has actually gone out of fashion. Go to any event, there will be scores of women in Black, or the new IT color of the season, and if you are lucky, you will spot maybe a handful of women in Red.

The last time Red was IN, we had the term “Red Is The New Black.” Shouldn’t it actually be the other way around?

Power, Intelligence, Sensuality, Intelligence, Seduction, Love, Romance - Red is the only color that can help you denote one or all of these qualities. No other color is that versatile.

Michelle Obama clearly understood this. On her first visit to the White House, her Mario Pinto Red dress said it all. While Laura Bush looked tired and old-world in comparison, Michelles’s dress conveyed her confidence, modernity, energy, and power in just the right measures.

I never will forget, the way you look tonight
The lady in red
My lady in red

And I am taking the cue…

I recently received this scrap on my online profile:

“Hi, my birthday is also on 17th July. Do you know its significance?”

Nothing wrong with it, you say?

The problem is that my birthday is NOT on 17th July, and when I checked his profile, neither was his.

In passing, is he asking the significance of 17th July or of having the same birthday (assuming our birthdays had matched)?

“Why do women have to have “The Talk” when we are watching TV?”

“What were you watching?”

“The F1 Finale, and since it was almost over, why couldn’t she have waited for another 10 minutes? And now she won’t talk to me at all.”

Being an F1 fan myself, I could sympathize with my friend’s exasperation. After all, even I made sure that I was not disturbed while I waited to see if Hamilton would clinch the title or miss it again this year. Unfortunately, being a woman, I could also understand her point of view.

So why do we do this? The answer is actually so simple and ludicrous that not many men will believe it.

And yes, we do know it’s an exasperating habit on our part. But when insecurity creeps into a relationship, even TV can seem like a threat. (Yes, I know how stupid that sounds).

Women bring up the “The Talk” when they are feeling insecure or neglected at some level. Not that it takes a lot to make us feel that way. And TV has a way of making our insecurities bigger. I think it’s because when most men get their hands on a remote, they are completely oblivious to everything else, and so we just feel even more neglected.

We think that if you can actually turn off the TV and talk to us, you do care for us. I can’t say what will happen if some guy actually did do this, but I have a feeling that instead of “The Talk”, she will just cuddle up against you to watch the rest of the show.

And if any of you women out there is lucky enough to have a guy who will switch off the TV to talk to you, then all I can say is GAL… Don’t ever let him go.