Trust Or Fear?
I’m also just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her.
– Julia Roberts as Anna Scott (Notting Hill)
I couldn’t help but remember this line as I watched Britney’s tell all documentary: Britney For The Record. With this one line, Julia Roberts had captured the yearning for love and the fear of rejection that each woman has, no matter how beautiful or famous she maybe.
Believe me, I am no Britney fan, and her behavior over the past couple of years, especially the infamous head-shaving incident, has seemed to me to be increasingly desperate attempts at grabbing public attention. However, watching the show, I could not but pity her and at the same time admire her too.
“You can’t really go there in a complete state of happiness because you’re scared it’s going to be taken away.”
That is too familiar.
While each one of us is looking for love, we are also secretly afraid of finding it, because finding it means giving up control. It makes us feel exposed and vulnerable to the possibility of being hurt.
This fear can slowly poison even the most beautiful relationships, and just prove our worst fears right. Vicious Circle, indeed.
The only way to rid one-self of this fear is TRUST - in your partner, in yourself, and in destiny.
When you bounce a baby in air, he laughs… because he knows you will catch him. That is the purest form of trust, and that is what is needed in relationships too.
You could argue that trusting someone so easily and completely is foolhardy but notice the difference between two. I do not say that you should trust easily, but once you do; trust completely because not trusting completely just means distrust.
When you are able to do that, only then you will no longer be afraid and really begin to love, and that really is the best feeling in the world.
Meanwhile, here’s hoping that Britney does fulfill her wish of getting married and living with her husband and kids on a secluded island.