Dating tips and advice for Men

In this section we will review how you should start the conversations, what are good topics you should talk about and then we will list some dating tips, DOs and DON'Ts of first few meetings with your new date.

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1. Dating tips for Conversation over phone

After exchanging emails when you give her or she gives you a positive response to call:

1) Once you receive an acknowledgment about the time to call her, do call her on time, just make sure you are not in a place with the noisy background.

2) Read her profile and find out her interests and what is she looking for. If you find common interests then its great you will have lot to talk about. Otherwise just pick 2-3 topics of her interest to ask her more questions when you talk.

3) Be relaxed and introduce yourself saying your name and location, then ask her what made her accept your invitation? wait and listen her carefully... Most of the time talks will start now and will go on.

4) Appreciate the things that you like in her, things which made you show interest in her, she would love to know it. One simple e.g may be her dressing sense in her photos, or her interest in hiking or her cute or sexy voice in her introduction.

5) You can start conversation on some of your common interests for e.g. say common interest is watching movies, then ask about what kind of movies are her fav and which is the latest movie she watched, conversation would go on, on this.

6) If you have a high Match Score that means most likely her thinking matches yours. Also if you speak less then she is the one who speaks more and vice versa, you will find that conversation is naturally flowing and is very pleasant.

If you are very open person you will find the other person to be more shy, try to get her open by giving her more chance to talk about herself, her interests and belief and about her family. Listen to her with interest and ask more questions in between. You will see she has open up quickly.

If you are family oriented then most likely your match matched by our system would also be family oriented so start a related conversation.

7) Teasing a little for fun - Most of the guys who are good in dating agree that teasing a little does work with girls. Try to tease her a little on something or other, for e.g., her hairstyle in her picture or her sexy body ;-) But be cautious not to overdo this, if she seriously doesn't like your teasing say sorry and that you were just kidding.

Your goal here is to become more informal and get more comfortable to each other.

8) Ask her about when is the right time to call her next (do not ask about her address or email or phone, she will automatically give you after few conversations), if she says the next day or in 2-3 days its a very positive sign, do call her the next time but a little late say late by 5 or 10 minutes.

2. Advice for Setting up a meeting point

After 4 or more conversation you can ask her out to meet.

Think of a public place where there is normal crowd and propose her to meet there. Do not propose a lonely place, the first time she will be more comfortable to meet in a place with many people around, this gives her feeling of security and also makes you appear more trustworthy.

Remember this is different than meeting at bars or pubs, usually in those places you meet for a short-term relationship or one night stand and solely on attraction. We focus mainly on personality attraction, physical attraction, preferences, communications and comfort level for long term relationship.

3. Dating tips and Advices for Dos and Don'ts of intial few meetings

Important tip - never get drunk before or during meeting.

If you like your date after meeting her do remember following points:

During the start of a relationship its the initial attraction that plays a major role. So do dress up nicely. Ask your friends what looks good on you. Girls usually like guys with good dressing sense.

Take a small gift for her such as a flower or a small chocolate. It really works! - Important dating tip

Give a nice smile on meeting. Be a little chivalrous and courteous, but don't over do.

Do compliment her if she looks beautiful or if her dress is nice. Complimenting works a long way!

Be confident and maintain an eye contact. Ladies like confident man. Tell her specifically in between the conversation that you believe in a successful relationship and confident that she will always be happy with you and if you have high matching score mention that the Matching score was really the right indicator. Do not say things like I like you or I love you in initial few meetings.

If she is shy or nervous, try to make her feel comfortable and try becoming more informal over the time.

Crack jokes and make environment lighter. Ask about her future plans and goals in life, this usually helps people opening up and become more comfortable to each other. Discuss to her your future plans etc.

Important dating tip - Pay attention when she is talking and ask questions in between, this shows that you are listening to her and increases her confidence in you.

Don't act distracted, look at her eyes and try to avoid cellphone calls, its important!.

Do not start talking about your previous relationship or ex girl friend, keep away from such topics.

After being comfortable enough in first few meetings tease a little ;) - for e.g. for the color of her purse or shape of her shoes but very little do not overdo.

Try to spend more time with each other, and keep talking more and more on the topic of common interests.

Try to equally divide the bills but it doesn't hurt if you end up paying more a few times :)

Before leaving do make sure she will safely reach home or drop her till her place.

After every meeting do follow up with her in a day or two and tell her if you enjoyed being with her and ask her how did she feel.

4. Some References for Dos and Don'ts of Dating for men

Have a glance over these articles these are good and informative:
http://health.discovery.com/centers/loverelationships/articles/dating_rules.html
http://www.ojar.com/view_3233.htm
http://www.aalize.com/date.htm
http://metromix.chicagotribune.com/dating

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