Dating tips and advice for Women

In this section we will review how you should start the conversations, what are good topics you should talk about and then we will list some DOs and DON'Ts of first few meetings with your date.

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1. Conversation over phone

After exchanging emails or with the help of Lets101 introduction system when you give him or he gives you a positive response to call:

1) Once you receive an acknowledgment about the time to call him, do call him on time, just make sure you are not in a place with noisy background. Similar goes for when you have given time for someone to call you.

2) Read his profile and find out his interests and what is he looking for. If you find common interests then its great you will have lot to talk about. Otherwise just pick 2-3 topics of his interest to ask him more questions about when you talk.

3) Be relaxed and introduce yourself saying your name and location, then ask him what made him accept your invitation? wait and listen him carefully... Most of the time talks will start now and go on.

4) Appreciate the things that you like in him, things which made you show interest in him, he would love to know it. One simple e.g may be his hair styles or smile, or his interest in hiking or his masculine voice in his introduction.

5) You can start conversation on some of your common interests for e.g. say common interest is watching movies, then ask about what kind of movies are his fav and which is the latest movie he watched, conversation would go on, on this.

6)If you have a high Match Score that means most likely his thinking matches yours.

If you speak less then he is the one who is talkative and vice versa, you will find that conversation is naturally flowing and very pleasant.

If you are very open person you will find the other person to be more shy, try to get him open by giving him more chance to talk about himself, his interests and belief.

7) One interesting question to ask is what does he like in women ;), you will be amazed how interesting the conversation becomes after this. If he is shy and just beating the bush, tell him you thought guys like women's body and figure and .... (you know) ;) and he will open up immediately.

Listen to him with interest and ask more questions in between. You will see he has open up quickly.

If you are family oriented then most likely your match matched by our system would also be family oriented so start related conversation.

Your goal here is to become more informal and get more comfortable to each other.

8) Ask him about when is the right time to call him next (do not ask about his address or email or phone, he will give you after few conversations), if he says the next day or in 2-3 days its a very positive sign, do call him the next time but a little late say late by 5 or 10 minutes.

2. Setting up a meeting point

After 4 or more conversation he should ask you out if not, don't wait for him, propose a date and time to meet.

Men really appreciate advances from women. Propose a public place where there is a normal crowd. Remember do not propose or agree to meet in a lonely place, for the first meeting its much more safe and comfortable to meet in a public place with many people around.

Remember this is different than meeting at bars or pubs, usually in those places you meet for a short-term relationship or one night stand and solely on attraction. We focus mainly on personality attraction, physical attraction, preferences, communications and comfort level for long term relationship.

3. Dos and Don'ts for intial few meetings

Always keep in mind - never get drunk before or during meeting. Avoid alcohol completely, its important.

If you like your date after meeting him do remember following points:

During the start of a relationship its the initial attraction that plays a major role. So do dress up nicely. Ask your friends what looks good on you. Guys do get attracted to beauty and dressing well ads up to beauty, but don't wear too revealing dress, if a guy is looking for serious long term relationship revealing dress may not please him.

Give a nice smile on meeting. Be a little courteous.

Do compliment him if you like something in him. Complimenting works a long way!

Be confident and maintain an eye contact - Confidence is appreciated everywhere and it helps you to get what you want. If you have high matching score mention that the Matching score was really the right indicator. Do not say things like I like you or I love you in initial few meetings.

If he is shy or nervous, try to make him feel comfortable and try becoming more informal over the time.

Crack jokes and make environment lighter. Ask about his future plans and goals in life, this usually helps people opening up and become more comfortable to each other. Discuss to him your future plans etc.

Pay attention when he is talking and ask questions in between, this shows that you are listening to him and increases his confidence in you.

Don't act distracted, look at his eyes and try to avoid cellphone calls, its important!.

Do not start talking about your previous relationship or ex boy friend, keep away from such topics.

Try to spend more time with each other, and keep talking more and more on the topic of common interests.

Try to equally divide the bills in restaurants etc :)

After every meeting do follow up with him in a day or two and tell him if you enjoyed being with him and ask him how did he feel.

4. Some References for Dos and Don'ts of Dating for women

Have a glance over these articles these are good and informative:
http://www.insideaguysmind.com/
http://www.dating-tips-for-women.com/

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